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Weight means your entire body weight – muscle, organs, fat, water, etc. Fit means that you have a low body fat percentage (for women, having a body fat percentage in the lower 20s is good).

So weight-loss shouldn’t necessarily be anyone’s goal. The problem is that a lot of women will go all-out on cardio and never do any weight lifting because they don’t want to get big muscles. You would need to have the intention to put on muscle to put on enough muscle to appear abnormally muscle-y.

The good news for women out there is that the supposed ideal weight you’re aiming for might be significantly lower than what a man would consider ideal.

There was a study I read in college about body weight and attractiveness in women.

So it’s really important to realize that whatever a particular man prefers, he probably wants you to have a little more meat on your bones than you think he ideally wants.

(This study and others can be found in The Evolution of Desire by David M Buss) Now I am not saying go cancel your gym membership and eat a tub of ice cream on the couch.

(This is an added note: To the women who are naturally skinny like a runway model, there’s nothing wrong with that.

My only point here is to women whose bodies don’t look like a runway model’s and feel they need to in order to get the best guy.) While I’m on the subject, most of the female celebrities that pop up on tabloids for getting super skinny also look horrifying to me…

Waist size is meaningless unless you take all of the other measurements into consideration (height, hips, shoulders, etc.) It’s not about weight or waist size, it’s about ratios. I’m not short, I love my height, though I would like to be higher. I’ve receved great comments from people about my feautures.

(Again, that’s not a slam against women who are naturally very skinny. Not at all, because I am obsessed with food and I eat a lot of junk. Some boys like my looks, but I am really shy and I’m deffinetly do not like going out of my comfort zone so the “liking thing” by that is kind of difficult.

To start things off, I can tell you that one of the things that guys will talk about is who we think is a hot chick.

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